The Cold, Hard Truth About Haters


Don't fall victim to the hater ideology. Sure, actual haters can exist within your life (or, as many people refer to them as: "fans"), but I'm not talking about those kind.

I'm talking about one type of hater in particular. One you might not even know is super close to you. One that's probably been with you your whole life, knows everything about you and creeps up at all the wrong times.

The hard truth about haters isn’t that we all have them. In all actuality, you might not have any real haters, at all. The thing to come to terms with is that most haters are all in your head. You may need to face this cold, hard fact: you may very well be your own biggest hater, self-sabotager, personal enemy numero uno. 

Yes, your biggest hater is probably a figment of your own imagination and insecurities.

I recently reread the book, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz and this specific sentence stood out to me: 

"Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don't need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally."

Yeah, let that one soak in. You, your own biggest hater, could've been lying to yourself this whole time. Sabotaging opportunities, destroying your self-esteem, knocking yourself down and embedding lies within your mind. 

It’s so easy for us to love random things, people, places, memories... but why is it so hard for us to love ourselves? Hell, I love Beyoncé, but why is it so hard for me to love myself? Sure, I like myself, but the loving part is something I have to work on each and every day. Silencing that hater in my own head is a constant battle that I fight. 

We are so easy on other people, but why do we give ourselves such a hard time? You’re human, too, and you know yourself better than anyone else does. So, cut yourself some slack.

It's said that haters can be our biggest motivator. Could you imagine if we became our own biggest supporter, instead? 

I say, kick the hater out of your head and cheer on yourself. What have you got to lose?

But hey, maybe it's just me.